Revisiting my childhood. Facing Your Past to Move Forward
To grow, we need to look at our past. This doesn’t mean we should carry it with us forever, but we can use it to help us move forward and become a better version of ourselves.
Sometimes, our past feels like it’s happening right now. We often talk about our traumas, miseries, and mistakes. It can feel like we are stuck in a loop, seeking attention from others because we haven’t paid attention to ourselves. If you find yourself talking a lot about your traumas to random people and then wondering why you shared so much, it’s a sign you need to face yourself.
Being vulnerable is good, but it’s not healthy to share your miseries with everyone all the time. It’s like inviting the same painful emotions back into your life, and they keep hurting you. In some places, this can make you feel worse. To truly heal, we need to be in a nurturing environments.
There is no quick fix, but there is a way to talk about your past safely, without feeling drained every time. Example below.
1.What happened? How did I feel?
Write down all of the struggles you keep repeating and telling people, just as you would tell someone else, but this time to yourself because you are your best friend. Take your time and write your heart out.
2. What coping mechanisms have I developed to deal with my trauma?
Write down how you cope with it now and how it is affecting your life. Is it healthy or harmful to you?
3. What Positive Changes Can I Make?
Consider all the things you enjoy doing that have helped you feel better about yourself. Is it simply a small action to go for a stroll alone, meditate, or do anything else you've tried or want to try? Sometimes we just need to attempt new things to change our reality and not be caught in the past. Perhaps you need professional assistance acknowledging that can benefit in the long run. If you're not sure what to do, go find it and try some things. Take it as a quest to discover your true self and mend all of your shortcomings.4. What boundaries do I need to establish to protect me mental and emotional well-being?
Consider how to apply them to both yourself and others. Being respectful and cautious about your trauma means handling it with care because you deserve to be healed and you deserve to improve every day. People who appear confident and are truly better have clearly set some realistic limitations. It encourages them to appreciate themselves, which is beneficial to your own self love. Write down anything that you think can help you.
5. How can I incorporate these new things in my routine?
Showing up to yourself and plan it to your schedule. Make specific plan soyou can be free of this. Don't forget to go back and check how you feel about it now versus when you started. Celebrate your tiny victories, and recognize that you have already taken a significant step toward facing the pain and struggle that has been holding you back. While this repair takes time, it is worthwhile since it brings you calm and allows you to appreciate your life more.
Remember, healing from trauma often requires professional support. These questions can guide your self-reflection, but working with a therapist or counselor can provide deeper, more structured support.
We are very proud of you for embarking on your new adventure to a better future. Leave us a comment if you discovered something new about yourself.
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